The Long Tail

The sex life of a couple changes dramatically from when it's first lit aflame, to the later years of familiarity and routine.

The first week - the first month - the two people can't get enough of each other. We fuck in every room, in every position, at every moment. In the back row of the movie, in the car, in the restaurant bathroom.

As we figure out what gets the other off. Or we confess what we'd like to try, some routine and regularity enters in. The same moves, the a to b to c plan, and the same time of day (always after dinner) or the day of the week (Friday is best, after the week).

I begin to crave the specific things my partner offers me. If she's a little heavy, I find myself looking at heavy girls, wondering, or rather - knowing how they look naked. And how they buck in bed. The folds behind their ass. The heft of their thigh.

If they have red hair, I lust after their pussy that I know I love, can make drip and cum. The thinned hair, barely hiding pink. Or dark-skinned girl? I have one just like you at home.

As my love affairs end and I find someone knew, my fetishes fade to be replaced by new ones. (The early ones, the ones that have been imprinted at an impressionable age, seem to stay. I still got a thing for red pussy hair. And being naked out of doors.)

You must have patience, and learn from your lover. You develop new techniques that are 60% familiar and effective, and 40% new and transgressive. It may be easy to do the tried and true, but there's benefit to pushing the envelope to keep it like that first sexy bitch blush of discovering a new fuck lover that first week. In which anything and everything goes, every position, no matter how awkward, because you're going to cum anyway.

"Can I do this today? I've never done this before - how does it feel now?" We all want to go right to what works. Is it still good? "Where did you learn that new trick?"

Mixing it up, and trying new things, keeps it interesting. Keeps you interested in your long-term lover. Your wife. Keeps you married. Keeps you hard and horny, wanting to fuck that ass, that tail, when she comes home and she's the only one you're gonna fuck.

So don't make a mistake. Make it yourself and make it good.