Aphrodisiac

The best aphrodisiac me and my wife have is the daylight.

It's not too late, and we haven't spent the last 2 hours putting the kids to bed, reading stories and setting out clothes. We haven't done greasy dishes, caught the 2nd half of Gossip Girl and fallen asleep over the movie section of the Times.

It's during the day, and the coffee is still working. Maybe it's after lunch... or better, just after breakfast. The sun is coming through the window and shining onto the bed.

There's no need to turn on the closet light and half-close the door. I can see everything I need to see. And so can she.

In the daylight I see every pore and hair. I am not curling up under the covers to get warm.

The whole day is ahead of us. Until the phone rings or work, school, or what or whom ever beckons. We can take our time, and that's the aphrodisiac.

The time. Once couples get busy lives, sex never seems to be the top priority, at least doing it right isn't. Sure you end up fucking or fingering each other every so often, and it gets done. But the old luxurious days of no kids, no house projects, no work and no bills soon is taken over by "what do we need to do first?"

Fun is often an afterthought.

But if we happen to be together during the day, maybe on a chance day off in which the kids are off on a playdate or at school, and we have the morning to get a couple of things done, then go to lunch together, we still have time to get the rest of the errands done, but also...

--to enjoy each other sexually. Let the warm sun shine in and make us think we're on the beach, outside for a moment. That we're in nature, that there is nothing pressing. Let's start the day with a fuck instead of ending it that way, when we're not at our best.

I much prefer to think about it all day, rather than fall asleep right after it. The bright light of day makes her body much warmer, her skin much softer and her smile more sincere. Less hurried.

The urgency can be enjoyed.